Married folks go have sex or else!

1 Corinthians 7: 1Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6I say this as a concession, not as a command.

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From what I understand the divorce rate is at 50% even amongst people who profess to be Christians. The first contributor to this downfall is money and the next is emotional separation which can lead to infidelity. There are a lot of temptations that come up against a marriage but sex has to be one of the biggest.

When I married my wife I took a vow to be with her until death. This vow meant to stay together physically and emotionally. There have been times when my selfishness has gotten in the way of the emotional union. After an argument or misunderstanding occurred then I bet you can tell there was no lovin’ going on.

Paul writes “do not deprive each other” and “our bodies are not really ours but our spouses.” He writes this because he knows how powerful sex truly is. If I get angry and withhold sex or emotional unity from my wife then she may be tempted to look elsewhere.

I usually don’t quote books in my quiet time, but here are the 12 steps to adultery from “Temptations Men Face by Tom Eisenman”

1. Readiness – Wanting it.
2. Alertness – Looking for it.
3. The “innocent” meeting – Harmless flirting.
4. The “intentional” meeting – Being at the right place at the right time.
5. Public Lingering – Group settings discussing personal history.
6. Private Lingering – Ideas, feelings and caring shared.
7. Purposeful Isolation – Specific meeting to “help” the other person.
8. Pleasurable Isolation – Sheer enjoyment.
9. Affectionate Embracing – Physical support for one another.
10. Passionate Embracing – “Besides my spouse, no one makes feel this way” move.
11. Capitulation – SEX!
12. Acceptance – They ask themselves if they are a couple.

There are no happy endings to this type of story, but GOD can lead me in the right direction before it starts.

GOD made sex as a holy and honorable act that is reserved as a sacred time, kind of a pleasurable act of worship. Paul says sex is a “duty” which seems more like a “task” but it seems to be the driver of many ills to society today.

I didn’t address the statement Paul said of remaining single because it would take too long. I would just say that if sex is a driver in your life then carefully and prayerfully ask GOD to deliver the right person who will put up with your nonsense. I did.

Are you handling sex in a GODLY fashion?
Are you involved in a relationship with a married person?
Are you angry or blaming your spouse for too many things?
Have you deprived your partner emotional or physical connectedness?